It is a powerful thing to realize that life comes from the inside out and not from the outside in!
This perspective can change your world, literally, when you realize that your moods create your world, not the other way around. Or that you are projecting what’s inside of you, instead of receiving from the outside.
What’s so important about that?
It means that everything in your life starts inside of you.
It means that when you feel a certain way, uncomfortable, you have to look inside for the answer, not outside.
Looking at the situation or circumstance that you think has caused your feelings is not the best way to make you feel better. It may, but things may also change and you will once again feel differently. This approach has two disadvantages. The first is that the situation changing doesn’t depend on you. The second is that it takes much more effort to change the world or another person (i.e., the outside) than to change your own point of view, your attitude, or your mood (i.e., the inside).
And I’m not saying that changing your attitude or mood when you’re upset, for instance, is easy. It is not. What I am saying is that it’s more powerful and effective than waiting for your situation to change. But we’re used to looking outside. We’re used to trying to change things outside of us. So, we need some training to be able to look inside and work there.
But please, try it.
Next time you’re upset, or frustrated, or angry, or sad, look inside of you. See if you can ease that feeling. Make it lighter, switch it for another feeling that makes you feel better. It doesn’t have to be on the other side of the spectrum, like happiness or joy. Making such a drastic change is actually quite difficult. But you can be curious, playful, open, or just more relaxed.
Play with it. Believe that you can modify how you feel, that you can play with those feelings a little bit and see how your experience of life changes.
You’re not a boat at the mercy of the sea.
It’s hard to sail against the waves.
But you can always gently surf your way out to the calm shore.